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What In The 2021!

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What Happened In 2020, Stays….

Not in 2020, I would say. Not only for the most obvious reasons, like the pandemic or the presidential election, but also in my personal life. I have found growth, where I did not see I need for some. Build on my self-love, that was lost and found (much stronger than before!.); and also found dreams I did not realize existed…, so all I can think is, What In The 2021!!

Many people would love to bury 2020 in an unmarked grave and banish it from their minds. I know this because I could have been one of them. It was one of the worst years I can remember, because to me, it was filled with uncertainly and madness. It was also, for me, a great time to self reflect and set goals.

Although I feel like 2020 followed us into the new year, I am equally sure we can kick it back to submission, using the love and light we all have within us. This year carries the repercussions of the year before, but we are naturally adaptable beings, and resilience resides in us all.

So What In The 2020! did you uncover?

It Is Here At Last

Now that 2020 is out the way, I can not wait to get things rolling in the new year. Things are slowly coming together and 2021 will be the year for ME. All of last year, I have learned MORE lessons, given myself closure and moved on from things that I have ignored or just did not want to deal with. I had to enforce boundaries, show patience in areas I had none in and show love to those who shown me nothing and yet, I still thrived and I hope that my readers thrive with me.

So within this article, I will be discussing some things I have discovered about myself and how I was able to move forward with positivity and light.



I can not stress the fact that being home bound is a LOT harder than anyone makes it look. Especially when even going to the park is dangerous and walking the street makes me wary. One of my boys are now against the outside world and the other deals with chronic cabin fever :)! I also know ALL episodes from certain shows, so yeah, there is that!

As much as I hope that this can be overcome quickly, I did appreciate the things I have learned because of quarantining. I have gained a better look at what teachers go through for our little ones, I have learned how to be more patient with my sons. I have never realized staying cooped up in one space for an extended amount of time can make me feel distant and unimportant in the lives of others.

So the best part of this is, I had learned to appreciate and love myself so much more because I was forced to stay and deal with things I could not hide myself from anymore. I can be my own GREATEST liar, but I am sure that goes for many people too, for the mind is the most powerful of tools.

Family…. Unite!

There used to be a time when I was sure, my family was forever torn. Sibling did not talk to one another, we did not talk to cousins, etc. 2020 did what time failed to do, unite those who were too stubborn to make the first move. Last year felt like the universes first move on me.

I learned that no matter what, in the darkest hour I have more people that have my back then I have ever realized. So in practicing that we are all perfectly imperfect, I needed to apply it fully and with every one around me, especially those in me and my sons orbit. I have gained closure with this part of my life and now my shoulders ache less.

Sometimes People Come Into My Life….

That are meant to aspire and some who are meant to deliver lessons. Some people have been in my life for years as one thing and ended on others. I have experienced heartbreak so deep and bleak, I had to take a break emotionally for a little. Had to pressed factory reset on some things and figure out where I went wrong.

And in 2020, a lot of people, suddenly found a lot more time on their hands or like me, felt the uncertainty of our world and it became a driving force of determination. I have seen some peoples’ true colors and intentions but I also am seeing my own.


I learned to hold my boundaries proudly and in doing so, finding those who do not respect me enough, to let me. I have had to cut myself out on some peoples’ life because the toxicity usually destroyed me and molded me to become someone I myself could not stand.

Dreams Realized.

I remember last year having a very important conversation with myself other than making sure I was okay. I asked, ‘Who do I want to be?’, in which I replied, ‘a mother who wants to be a stable fixture in their children life and with that, needs to figure out how to succeed.’

So I sat on that for a minute and then asked, ‘ What makes me happy?’ and with that I paused and really thought about it. I thought that the most AMAZING feeling, wa s making people feel good about themselves. When they under value their abilities, or any negative feelings, I always try to brighten and give love to another person.

That makes me happy and that is my dream.

So learned and I began to slowly build a website and writing content so that I can live my dreams and I started…in 2020.

So Long 2020, And Welcome 2021

Using tools I have gathered throughout the last couple of years, especially last year, I believe I am better prepared and ready for what is to come. Even though this year is looking to be another tough one, if there is anything to take from 2020, is that human beings are strong and together we can spread our light and love and we can overcome what ever may come our way.

So welcome 2021, it is a pleasure to officially meet you.


Brendaliz Serrano

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  1. Hi Brenda

    Happy New Year!
    Its very nice to read some inspiring article like that, which give us hope and motivation to strive for a better year.
    2020 was special, lot of tough challenges but ironically it was the year I surprisingly achieved more stuffs. Maybe having so much difficulties make us strive harder and discover our hidden skills and strength.

    I wish you all the best for 2021, human is adaptive and combative by nature. So we will do our best to make this year special with lot of good stuffs.

    Continue the great work!


    1. Happy New Year!
      I am glad you were able to uncover talents you did not even know existed! Using time wisely is one of the best traits you can have!
      Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it!
      Sending Light and love to you and yours!

  2. Hi Brendaliz,
    Yes, 2020 was tough for everyone, and it’s good to know that you have learned a lot from it, just like what you mentioned that you learn how to appreciate and love yourself more, which all of us need to learn for our precious lives.

    And, of course, family. This pandemic helps us gather more than ever, and I think we share time to stand as one. Therefore, don’t lose hope in your dream! We can overcome it and embrace a brighter future.

    Thanks for sharing this warm article today. I did feel better after reading it. 🙂


    1. Hello Matt!
      I am glad that I was able to lift your mood just a bit, maybe you even grin, who knows!
      And that is enough for me!
      I have lost many things, but my dreams can not be one of them. I hope no one loses that!
      I hope we all have a bigger, better future!
      Sending light and love your way and I hope you have an amazing 2021, Matt.

  3. Hi 🙂
    “I have never realized staying cooped up in one space for an extended amount of time can make me feel distant and unimportant in the lives of others.” This is such an important realization. It’s interesting to learn what our relationship with ourselves and others is like during a time of crisis. We are normally a lot my resilient and capable than we give ourselves credit for.

    I’m thinking that this year is going to be a time of great change for those many people that have made themselves stronger than they were before.
    The human spirit is so amazing and has so much potential, that I am predicting a better future for us.
    However, transition takes time, so we may need to be resilient for a while longer.
    Thanks for sharing your story, I enjoyed reading it.

    1. Hello Andrew,
      I agree, humans beings are amazing with our capacity to adapt and flourish.
      Even though change takes time, our resilience won’t falter.
      I also believe this year will be the year for many too!
      Thank you for taking time and leaving a comment, I greatly appreciate it, Andrew.
      I send light and love, and hope this year is better then 2020!

  4. Hi Brendaliz!
    Thanks for sharing this inspiring post! Yes, 2020 was a hard year for many of us, but I think many of its issues have had a positive impact, for example, I was able to learn many new skills during the quarantine as well – I created my new website half a year ago and I hope to be independent of any jobs in the future.
    The downside is the travel restrictions, which I think will exist during the next year as well and the remote study for kids, which is difficult for many. But hopefully 2021 will be much better! We need to stay tuned on positive thinking and spread the love!
    All the best,

    1. Hello Alex!
      MANY blessings to your goal in being financially independent. I love that you used the time to do something you love, with a goal of it becoming a stable form of income. It is exactly what I have done and I salute you for the dedication.
      Even with restrictions, we build what we can until it gets lifted.
      Sending light and love your way. Keep positive so that positivity can shine on you in this new year Alex.

  5. Brenda I love your post, it is so filled with positivity and I agree with you, 2020 was hard but it came with so many opportunities for us to learn and grow more.
    I found it really hard being cooped up with my kids BUT I have also spent some amazing quality time and we have grown closer because of it. What more could a mother ask for? And yes I totally agree with you, I have gotten much more insight into what our teachers do and my respect and gratitude has grown immensely in the last year.
    I’m hoping that 2021 is a kinder year for everyone.

    1. Thank you very much! Spending this quality time with my boys has been awesome and I tell my boys teacher’s thank you often. There has been tough moments but as I learn, I grow and be better then before.
      Sounds like your doing great mommy! Wishing you light and love and and an amazing year!

  6. Hey,

    I really hope a lot of people come across this article, as it is really important. 2021 is going to be a huge year for everybody after the terrible year we have just had. It is up to us to be our best and give our best in everything we do.

    Whether that be work, helping others, staying safe, following the rules. We need to make sure that everything we control is our best to try and make this a better year than 2020.

    Thank you for sharing such an important article and keep up the great work.

    All the best,


    1. Hello Tom!
      Yes! We all must always be positive and give our best each time!
      I liked when you said, if you control what you can, and be your best, you can build a better 2021!
      Thank you for leaving this awesome comment and I wish you many blessings, Tom.

  7. I like you post on What in The 2021! I liked it because you spoke from your own perspective about COVID 19. This virus has forced there closure of many businesses. 2021 will hopefully be positive.

    1. Thank you for taking time to read and comment!
      It is sad that the pandemic has caused much pain, whether it is mental or physical, we are all affected.
      This is why it is important to try to spread light and love wherever possible!
      Thank you once again!

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