I will like to start off with this:
This is about my struggles and tribulations with my beautiful boys who happen to be clinically diagnose with being on the Autism Spectrum; both at an extremely young age. No two cases are the same (case in point, my two boys), but I would love to be able to share and discuss my research or experiences with you. This place is intended to be a place of LOVE, COMFORT and SUPPORT.
So any negativity will not be tolerated. I do not condone putting anyone down or let hate of any kind lead a discussion. We are here to grow and be a better PARENT then the one we were yesterday. We are here to learn from people who are just like us; parents of children with Autism.
What is Autism? A Mother’s Tale will start off a NEW CATEGORY under My Post tab!! My boys showing me and hopefully someone else that even though they need more attention and focus, the unconditional love is there, that it will always be there.
So do not hesitate to comment or start a discussion! Do not be afraid to ask questions and/or answering anyone else’s. We are a COMMUNITY here and I welcome all 🙂
What is Autism?
Autism Spectrum Disorder also known as ASD, is a neurodevelopmental condition that effects how one views the world. It is a complex lifelong disability that can appear during early childhood. Symptoms can generally appear in the first two years of a childs’ life and affect communication, social skill, relationships and self-regulations (emotions and/or behavior). This makes Autistic people see, hear and feel the world differently than other people.
Autism is a NOT an illness or disease, nor can it be ‘cured’. It is a spectrum condition meaning that some people are affected more or less than others. Here are a couple of examples:
- Some autistic people cannot use spoken language, while some use their spoken language beautifully.
- Some can relate to non autistic people, while others find it difficult to understand what the other people mean.
- While one can be introverted (in their own heads/reality), another person can be extroverted ( sociable)
Even though autistic people share common differences, like how they hear and feel the world, they also have different STRENGTHS and ABILITIES. Therefore, challeneges would also be different to each and every autistic person. This will affect their lives in different ways, at different ages and also in different environments.
Like I had mentioned earlier, no two people on the spectrum are the same. As a developmental condition, autism looks different at different ages. Also the symptoms of autism in childhood, middle childhood, teenagers and adults will be different.
Some autistic people also have other types of disabilities such as Intellectual disabilities, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and/or learning difficulties. There are also some with mental health issues, most common issues being anxiety and depression.
The difference between an individual in terms of their autistic traits and the impacts of these other conditions mean that everyone will need different levels of support. I am glad to say that with the right level of support, a lot more people with autism can be lead into having fulfilling lives!!
DSM- V –The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders on Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
DSM- V has defined Autism Spectrum disorder as “persistent difficulties with social interaction” and “restricted and repetitive patterns of behaviors, activities or interests”, this also includes sensory behavior. This is presented since early childhood extending to “limit and impair everyday functioning”. The child in question will need to have met these criteria to be given a formal diagnosis of ASD.
This is also why some people who exhibit some but not all of these features and people who have learned to manage their autism in a environment that is familiar will have difficulties getting a formal diagnosis. Hopefully all people can benefit from the same help as the one who are formally diagnosis.
Mom of Two Autistic Boys
My name is Brendaliz and I am a mother of two wonderful autistic boys and I am here to speak about what I go through; my fears, downfalls and victories. Things I have or will go through, all experiences will be shared. This is a difficult topic, but I will be as transparent as I possibly can because I know how it feels to be lost and have no one who can really understand the feelings and sacrifices you make every day for your baby or babies as me 🙂 .
I will talk about the beginnings journey, early intervention, schooling, social awareness, potty training, routines, teaching achievements and pitfalls, etc. I
will talk about things you (my amazing writers) ask me and the other amazing readers! I am here to help YOU, help ME, for we are all in this TOGETHER!!
Our children need SOMEONE helping them face the challenges that are right in front them with love and patience. They need to be secure in the love shown because as much as we get frustrated, imagine not being able to communicate what is causing such emotions. Not being able to understand your peers or to not be understood. I feel like they just want to be assured and loved.
I am NOT PERFECT, but I will continue everyday to be better than yesterday. I know they’re people out there who are killing it in this arena, and all I have to say is….care to stop by and share your experiences, oh gifted one? (No sarcasm, I am super serious!)
I know that as a mother, parenting never stops and the more we share amongst ourselves, the better we equip ourselves for the challenges WE face too. As they face theirs, we face our own set of issues and heartache… but we also face such PRIDE when we smash through obstacles and persevere!!
SO SHOUT out to the parents who won’t back down, who stand up for theirs and for giving them the love that they deserve. We are the heroes in their heads!! We all have different views and routines and that is what I am counting on as I write this post. I am counting on the parents coming together, sharing insights and showing support because we need what we give our children; love and support too!
So Much Love
Proud Mom of Two Autistic Boys